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How Battlefords Interval House Can Help You

Battlefords Interval House is a shelter for women and their children leaving domestic/intimate partner violence. We believe that everyone deserves to live a life free from violence. We provide…

  • A safe, emergency shelter
  • One-on one counselling for you and your children
  • Help to find safe, affordable housing
  • Help to establish a safety plan
  • Referrals to community resources
  • Family-based activities and celebrations
  • Advocacy
  • Emotional support
  • Counselling and confidential support for you as you heal and plan for the future

Am I Being Abused?

Please remember that no one has the right to hurt you. You have the right to be free from abuse. You are not at fault and do not cause the abuse. The following are some of the signs of abuse:
  • If you are frightened of your partner’s temper.
  • If you are afraid to disagree.
  • If you have to justify everything you do, everywhere you go, and everyone you see.
  • Taking your phone and questioning who you talk to.
  • Not letting you go out.
  • Hurting your pets and/or children.
  • Forced to have sex.
  • Forced to use drugs, drink alcohol against your will.
  • Ignoring or minimizing your feelings.
  • Constantly criticizing, insulting, and calling you names.
  • Humiliating you in public or private.
  • Refusing to help you when you are sick or injured.
  • Controlling all the money.
  • Locking you out of your home.
  • Isolating you from your family, friends, work, and community support.
  • Controlling where you go and what you do.
  • Checking up on you constantly.
  • Blaming you for the abuse that occurs.
  • Playing mind games.
  • Threatening to: hurt you, take your children, harm your family, and hurt you with a weapon.
  • Pushing, shoving, throwing objects at you.
  • Hitting, choking, punching, biting, slapping, kicking you.
If any of these are happening to you or if you think you might be being abused, consider talking to someone who can help.

What to Expect

During your stay, our crisis workers will help you to:
  • Understand and help you heal from your experience of violence and abuse;
  • Understand the effects that domestic violence may have on your children;
  • Work with you to find ongoing income and affordable housing;
  • Advocate and refer you to outside agencies who will support you to move forward independently; and
  • Identify your strengths, your coping tool box and your personal resources to support you moving forward with a positive mindset.
The Getting Out Guide will help you identify the signs of an abusive relationship and how to leave a dangerous situation.

Create a Safety Plan

Leaving a relationship is a difficult decision. You may experience conflicting emotions. For example, you want the abuse to stop but you love and care for the abuser. You might feel scared, helpless, or that you deserve the abuse. You might feel embarrassed to admit that your relationship is in trouble. It is hard to admit you are being abused, but seeking help is important. Your safety plan is your guide to leaving the abuse. Your safety plan should include what you will take with you, where you can go, and who you can contact for help. While you should try to make your safety plan as solid as possible, leave some room for flexibility in case the situation changes. Sometimes things come up at the last minute. Having a backup plan and leaving room for change will make things easier.

Carry in your wallet originals or copies of all the cards you normally use:

  • Social Insurance Number (SIN) card
  • Credit cards
  • Phone card
  • Bank cards
  • Health cards
  • Status card

Try to keep your wallet, purse, or bag handy containing:

  • Keys for your home, car, workplace, safety deposit box, etc.
  • Cheque book, bank books/statements
  • Driver’s licence, registration, insurance
  • Address/telephone book
  • Picture of spouse/partner and any children
  • Emergency money (in cash) hidden away
  • Cell phone and charger
  • Extra medications and a list of medications and their dosages

Have a suitcase available so you can quickly pack the following items:

  • Clothing for you and your children
  • Special toys and/or comforts for your children
  • Medications
  • Jewelry and items of special sentimental value
  • A list of other items you would like to take if you get a chance to return to your home to collect more belongings later

If you have pets, gather items you will need for their care:

  • Crate or kennel
  • Leash and collar
  • Food and water bowls
  • A small amount of food if possible (especially if your pet is on a special diet)
  • Any special toy or bedding that your pet enjoys
  • Pet licence or something to prove ownership of the animal

Make a photocopy of the following items and store in a safe place, away from the originals. Hide the originals someplace else, if you can.

  • Passports, birth certificates, Indian/First Nations status cards, citizenship papers, immigration papers, permanent resident or citizenship cards, etc., for all family members
  • Driver’s licence, vehicle registration, insurance papers
  • Prescriptions, medical, and vaccination records for all family members
  • School records
  • All income assistance documentation
  • Marriage certificate, divorce papers, custody documentation, court orders, protection orders, or other legal documents
  • Lease/rental agreement, house deed, mortgage documents
  • Open a bank account in your own name and instruct the bank not to phone you. Access the statement online or arrange for it to be sent to a different location, such as to a trusted friend or family member.
  • Store documents in a safety deposit box at a bank that your partner does not go to.
  • Save and set aside as much money as you can (e.g., take a bit of change out of grocery money if/when possible).
  • Hide extra clothing, keys, money, etc., at a friend/family member’s house.
  • Decide where you are going to go and how you will get there (e.g., by taxi or getting a ride from a friend).
  • If you use mobility devices or other equipment to accommodate a disability, consider where you can rent or borrow any needed items.
  • Connect with an agency that can help you by contacting 211 Saskatchewan.
  • If you call 911 from a landline, you can leave the phone off the hook after you have dialed the number and the police will come to your location. This can be particularly useful if you have any communication difficulties.
  • A 911 call is free from cell phones and pay phones.
  • Even if the phone is not activated or out of minutes, you can still call 911. However, if you call from a cell phone, the police cannot tell where you are calling from, so be sure to give them your address immediately.
  • If the abuser interrupts while you are calling 911, a tip to remember is to talk to the operator like you are ordering take-out food. This way you are still able to provide your location.
  • Try to remain on the line until the 911 call-taker tells you it is okay to hang up.

Remember: You can call 911 from anywhere on a charged cell phone, even if the phone is not activated or is out of minutes. Always call 911 if you feel you are in danger.

The Safety Planner offers guidance on what to take with you, where you can go, and who you can contact for help.

Help a Friend

You might think that something as simple as talking to a friend about abuse couldn’t possibly make a difference. But it really does. Just knowing that someone cares enough to ask about the abuse can break through the wall of isolation that can exist around victims of relationship abuse. If you think a friend is being abused, talk to your friend about it. Listen. Let your friend know you care. You don’t have to be an expert. You just need to be there.
Ensure you have privacy and will not be distracted or interrupted.
Be honest; tell her about times when you were worried about her. Help her see that what she’s going through is not right. Let her know you want to help.
Listen to your friend. Keep in mind that it may be very hard for her to talk about the abuse. Tell her that she is not alone, and that people want to help.

You might say you are willing to just listen, to help her with childcare, or provide transportation as an example.

Do not say, “You just need to leave.” Instead, say something like, “I get scared thinking about what might happen to you.” Tell her you understand that her situation is very difficult.
Safety planning includes picking a place to go and packing essential items.

Offer to help find a domestic violence shelter near her. Offer to go with her to the shelter, the police, or court.

Your friend may decide to stay in the relationship, or she may leave and then go back many times. It may be hard for you to understand, but people stay in abusive relationships for many reasons. Be supportive, no matter what your friend decides to do.
It is important for her to see friends and family.
Even though the relationship was abusive, she may feel sad and lonely once it is over. She also may need your help getting services from agencies or community groups.